What do I Have to Offer?

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I’ve had moments in my process where I didn’t see or realize that I had something to offer to others. I was focused on just the points I was going through in my own life/process and sometimes, it would be relatively ‘quiet’ – like, no ‘big issues’ coming up, everything being quite stable – and here, getting the idea that ‘something’s wrong’ and ‘how can I support others when I’m not working through anything major’ in my day to day life.

OR – in other moments in my process where I was going through/working with so many different points where I felt there is no way I can support others, because I felt I wasn’t stable enough to do so – where, in those moments I was looking for that ‘absolute stability’ in ALL areas of my life/myself/my process to ‘feel ready’ to support others.

What I realized, though – is that in either scenario – I was able to assist/support others and I actually DID have something to offer.

For instance, in the periods where everything was quite stable/quiet within my life/my process, what I didn’t realize is that – even though I was not facing a ‘major issue’ or ‘trauma’ – there were many points I would look at and work with throughout my day – points I was developing/doing – where I wasn’t necessarily even aware that I was. So – in speaking with another, I was able to share about how I had worked with similar points, where within the sharing – I was actually seeing/realizing that I HAD been working with such points, lol – where, otherwise, I wouldn’t have even ‘taken notice’ of it. So – in allowing myself to actually place myself in a point of support, it also supported me to see myself, acknowledge my own application and changes – seeing that I had more to offer than I thought/believed.

Then in terms of moments where I felt I was dealing with too many points in my own process, I was actually holding myself back within the idea that ‘I have to be perfect’ before I can support others. What I didn’t consider, is that everyone’s processes move differently – so as one is working with a certain point, a second will already have walked it. But the second person may be faced with a point the first one is able to assist with. Each one is at a different point in relation to different issues, so perfection is not a requirement to be able to support. In having a look at it from taking a step back – picturing a group of people who are at different let’s call it ‘stages’ in relation to different points, it actually becomes quite obvious that the best way for all to move forward is if all share with each other and all can learn from each other.

Now – if you’ve just set out on your own process of self-discovery and self-honesty, then sure, take the time to find your footing and establish a point of self-stability first – focus on yourself and prove the tools to yourself first. It’s more when you’ve already walked these points over quite some time and still feel that you don’t have anything to offer (yet) – realize that: it’s just an idea, where you’re trying to reference yourself/your process/your walking only from within a limited perspective. You’d be amazed at how much you actually do have to offer and how much richer your process becomes when you allow yourself to share yourself, your process and your walking in support of others.

And sure – initially, it might be uncomfortable and you’re going to make mistakes, but that’s how you learn. So – if you see you’re holding back because of this idea of having nothing to offer – I suggest you challenge yourself by placing yourself in a position of support – and actually find out ;).

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